To Make Room for My Brother I Learned to Disappear
Esther Perel
Jonathan
Jul 3, 202618 May 2026
Vote
With her wedding just weeks away, a young woman calls Esther with a question she’s been carrying for most of her life: how do you allow yourself joy when you’ve learned to make yourself small? Growing up alongside a non-speaking autistic brother taught her to be vigilant, self-effacing, and attuned
Transcript
Hi Esther. I'm getting married in just over a month and while I am really excited and anticipating the event, I'm also concerned that I'll get in the way, get in my own way of experiencing joy. And ge
Open the interactive transcript
Search every word, jump to any moment, and follow along with the audio.
