I Can't Love You the Way You Want Me To
Esther Perel
Jonathan
Jul 3, 202614 April 2025
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Their relationship is on the edge. They're grappling with communication issues and the emotional scars from their past. And they're trapped. Trapped in an endless cycle of blame, defensiveness, and attack. Esther tries to help them notice their patterns of escalation and break the cycle they keep fi
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A couples therapy session explores a divorced couple’s recurring conflict patterns, rooted in childhood trauma, control, and different love languages. Esther Perel guides them toward curiosity, appreciation, and emotional safety, emphasizing how their reactions and listening habits keep them trapped in escalation and disconnection.
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