The Permission to Be and Not Just the Pressure to Do
Esther Perel
Jonathan
Jul 3, 202615 December 2025
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He comes to Esther with a question about how to feel worthy without constantly having to prove himself. For him, it’s not just personal, it’s also racial. Defining himself on what he calls the “path of black excellence,” achievement has become both a burden and a measure of identity. Together, they
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Hi Esther. Since I was a kid, so much of my validation came from titles. Being labeled gifted and talented, hearing I was destined for great things. I did what we were told would lead to success. Go t
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