…who leads and the mother who follows. Quote, Where their roles differ is in the timing of their responses, writes John Bowlby, one of the century's great psychiatric researchers. The infant initiates the interaction or withdraws from it according to his own…

…one of the century's great psychiatric researchers. The infant initiates the interaction or withdraws from it according to his own rhythms, Bowlby found, while, quote, the mother regulates her behavior so that it meshes with his. Thus she lets him call the…

…It's a reversal of roles that happens for a lot of kids. And that reversal of role, as the great British psychiatrist John Bowlby pointed out, is almost inevitably a source of pathology in a child later on. So that, again, what we're talking about is…

…And this was to save my life in wartime Hungary, in December of 1944. I was just under a year old. John Bowlby, the great British psychiatrist and researcher of attachment, talked about the young child's response when the mother doesn't show up These…

…how they did it. The child is physiologically stressed, her heart rate goes up, but she won't even look at the mother. And Bowlby calls this defensive detachment. It's a self-protection. The message is, I was so hurt when you abandoned me that I will not…

…gained in comparing. But also, there's different kinds of ways that people can be hurt. And I really like you quote John Bowlby, who's the attachment kind of person. almost founding father, who defines these kinds of small traumas as nothing happening when…

…and why they're so crucial. Sure. So that was actually D.W. Winnicott. Oh, did I confuse you? A fellow British contemporary of John Bowlby. And so trauma, we often think of it as terrible, dire things happening to people, such as Tara describes in her…

…it without getting caught up in believing that it's true If we can recognize it when it arises. Yeah, that withdrawal, and John Bowlby, the attachment pioneer, studied this, is defensive. It says, when you left me, When I was separated from you, and the…

…first book on attention deficit disorder, with which I was diagnosed when I was 52, I came across the work of John Bowlby, the great British psychiatrist and researcher of attachment. And Bowlby describes a situation in England where in the 30s, I think…

…when I was 52, I came across the work of John Bowlby, the great British psychiatrist and researcher of attachment. And Bowlby describes a situation in England where in the 30s, I think this was, or 40s, parents were discouraged from visiting their…