…Cost of Hidden Stress, Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, which was co-written with Gordon Neufeld, and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Close Encounters with Addiction. He's recipient of the 2009 Hubert Evans Prize for…

…Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection, Scattered, How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His latest book is called In the…

…Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection, Scattered, How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. Oh, and there's his latest, In the…

…might be getting the behaviors we want. And by the way, we will get them only temporarily for reasons perhaps that Gordon Neufeld talked about, but I will reinforce today. You'll get the behaviors, but you'll only get them temporarily. But whether or not…

…author of four books, including Scattered, How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It. And with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, hold on to your kids, why parents need to matter more than peers. Earlier this year, he appeared on Democracy…

…want to review a book called Hold on to your kids, why parents need to matter more than peers. So this is a book by Gordon Neufeld who is a PhD and a very famous author called Gabor Mati and a lot of you have probably heard of Gabor Mati. He's an…

…lot of you have probably heard of Gabor Mati. He's an amazing international figure now. But he wrote this in conjunction with Gordon Neufeld. I think I'm pronouncing that right. Or Neufeld. I get the sense that most of this book is actually written by…

…He's an amazing international figure now. But he wrote this in conjunction with Gordon Neufeld. I think I'm pronouncing that right. Or Neufeld. I get the sense that most of this book is actually written by Gordon Neufeld. But I think it was, you know,…

…Gordon Neufeld. I think I'm pronouncing that right. Or Neufeld. I get the sense that most of this book is actually written by Gordon Neufeld. But I think it was, you know, a lot of editions have come in with Gabor Mati. So I'm going to read... the…

…Gabor Mati. So I'm going to read... the blurb on the back first of all. So international authority on child development Gordon Neufeld PhD joins forces with best-selling author Gabor Mate MD to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time. Children…

…and anxiety. Despite well-intentioned efforts, contemporary parenting often falls short for both generations. So why does this happen? Gordon Neufeld might have an answer. It's not about what parents do, but their role in their children's lives. Even…

…relationship. The secret of parenting is not in what a parent does, but rather who the parent is to a child. Gordon Neufeld One of the driving forces that impedes child-parent attachment is the growing role of peers. These peers, often unintentionally, have…

…Children do not experience our intentions no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior. Gordon Neufeld Ultimately, three essential ingredients make parenting work. A dependent child who needs to be taken care of, an adult…

…Fresh Take from What Fresh Hell? Laughing in the Face of Motherhood. This is Amy. Today, I'm talking to Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development and…

…in the Face of Motherhood. This is Amy. Today, I'm talking to Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Neufeld…

…Maté. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Neufeld is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child…

…Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Neufeld is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and…

…healing in a toxic culture and scattered minds the origins and healing of attention deficit disorder Today, I'll be talking to Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Mattei about the newly released and updated version of their book, Hold On To Your Kids, Why Parents Need To…

…when you frustrate somebody's perceived needs, they get aggressive. Frustration is the engine of aggression. As my friend, psychologist Gordon Neufeld says. So the child gets aggressively angry because she couldn't have that cookie. Nothing wrong with that. So…

…will outline, That's exactly what we need to do. And having said that, I'd like to introduce my friend and colleague, Gordon Neufeld. The general thesis is very, very simple. It's very, very simple. And it's been in developmental science for some time. It…

…Now, once in preparation for a book that I didn't get to write because I didn't have time on bullying with my friend Gordon Neufeld, I looked at the literature. On the impact of zero tolerance policies on bullying, you know what the there was an article…

…Now, that's not my work. I helped to do with the writing, but it's a brilliant work of my friend and mentor, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, who is the leading developmental psychologist in the whole world, as far as I'm concerned. He lives here in Vancouver. I say…

…he's a bottomless font of knowledge and information on child development Well, just I agree. We'll just ask for that link to Gordon Neufeld. Just Google Gordon Neufeld, but maybe to be put in the chat here. Thanks for that, Gabor. All right. So I'm going…

…font of knowledge and information on child development Well, just I agree. We'll just ask for that link to Gordon Neufeld. Just Google Gordon Neufeld, but maybe to be put in the chat here. Thanks for that, Gabor. All right. So I'm going to start from, I…

…are the qualities of healthy play. Now, if you want more resources on play, I can again recommend Dr. Gordon Neufeld. And there's a late and great neuroscientist called Yak Panksepp, P-A-N-K-S-E-P-P, who actually distinguished that I mentioned earlier, there's…

…Kids, Why Parents Need Tonight Are More Than Peers. It's not my work, it's the work of a billion psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, but it's the only parenting book you'll ever have to read, okay? You got to read that book, I promise you. And…

…in the UK as well, and in 40 other languages. It's not my work. It's the work of a psychologist friend of mine called Gordon Neufeld. I did the writing with him because he's not a writer. But it's about the fact that in this society, kids get too…

…Need to Matter More Than Tears, which I wrote with the brilliant man whose theory I've just given you. His name is Gordon Neufeld, and he's, to my mind, the world's leading developmental psychologist. We have seven and a half minutes. I'd like to pause…

…you read, hold on to your kids, which is not my work. But in this book, Scattered Minds, You may recall the name Gordon Neufeld. He's a psychologist who I quoted on this oppositionality. Well, Hold On To Your Kids is his work that I helped him write.…

…you frustrate somebody's perceived needs, they get aggressive. Frustration is the engine of aggression, as my friend, the psychologist Gordon Neufeld says. So the child gets aggressively angry because she couldn't have that cookie. Nothing wrong with that, so…

…Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection, Scattered, How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His latest book is called In the…

…Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection, Scattered, How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. Oh, and there's his latest, In the…

…to be close to somebody in order to be taken care of or in order to take care of. So that in my book with Gordon Neufeld on Hold On To Your Kids about the need for children to attach to parents and what happens when that attachment is lost, we're…

…but by the good things that should happen not happening. And this is where you're quoting my friend, brilliant psychologist Gordon Neufeld, who talks about the irreducible needs of children. And these are the irreducible needs of children, meaning that if…

…in this case, because I'm not the main writer of it. The main writer is a friend and colleague and mentor called Gordon Neufeld in Gordon's work showing that kids get too connected to peers in this culture. As a result, parents lose their influence and…

…people. So a woman came to me for a second opinion about 12 years ago now. Actually referred to me by my friend Gordon Neufeld, psychologist. And her story was that she'd been diagnosed with ALS by one of the leading experts in the condition in British…

…be The Making and Unmaking of Bullies and Victims, A New Look at Contemporary Malaise, co-written with developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld. It is my pleasure to introduce Dr. Gabor Mattei. Thank you. Just a couple of questions to the biography. My…

…friend and co-writer in this book, Hold On To Your Kids, which is the main subject of my talk this afternoon, Gordon Neufeld, calls peer attachment. And following peer attachment is peer orientation. Orientation meaning, where do I get my sense of direction…

…a leading news magazine even asking that question. And of course the answer was no, because the peer group is decisive. Gordon Neufeld, the psychologist, and I write in his book, the question of parental influence might not be quite so crucial if things…

…am I saying that right? Marzahn, okay, that's demonstrated is a natural human response to any sense of coercion. Gordon Neufeld, my brilliant psychologist friend, calls it counter-will. Counter-will is the natural force that we generate in response to any…

…others internationally. His books include In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, When the Body Says No, Scattered Minds, and with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids, Today, Dr. Gabor Maté is with Banyan Books for this special conversation and audience Q&A…

…A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold On to Your Kids with Dr. Gordon Neufeld. Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a nonprofit that focuses on addiction, and he's also an advisor of…

…them with rules and regulations and information. We'd be inviting their own foldment as human beings. And, you know, Gordon Neufeld, my colleague and co-writer who you talked to recently, speaks so eloquently about the developmental agenda is the agenda…

…earlier, this gorgeously complex aspect of what it is to be whole. I mean, the developmental process itself, And I love what Gordon Neufeld did with his own version of it. I love the developmentalism. The idea is that there are certain things we need,…

…survival. So a child has two basic needs. The one need is for attachment. Now attachment is the, as my friend Gordon Neufeld defines it, is the drive, is the biological, psychological, emotional drive for closeness and proximity with another human being for…

…Says No, Exploring the Stress Disease Connection, Scattered, how ADD originates and what you can do about it. And with Gordon Neufeld, hold onto your kids, why parents need to matter more than peers. The international bestseller, The Myth of Normal, trauma,…

…people. So a woman came to me for a second opinion about 12 years ago now. Actually referred to me by my friend Gordon Neufeld, psychologist. And her story was that she'd been diagnosed with ALS by one of the leading experts in the condition in British…

…It's to make them not dangerous. Make them behave. It's a way of taming danger. And we become charming My friend Gordon Neufeld is a brilliant child psychologist. There's certain ways that children will adapt. So if you're not loved for who you are,…

…frustration and hot, fast anger that can go from nothing to something quickly. Yeah, got it. I mentioned my friend, the psychologist Gordon Neufeld. He's the main author of our book. I helped to write with him. It's called Hold on to Your Kids. It's a…

…Exactly. Wow. So work on yourself. That's the first thing. Okay. Then there are what a great psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, and there's a chapter in this in the book, describes as the irreducible needs of children. The irreducible. That if…

…sensitive kids. So that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say this…

…that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say this advisedly. And the…

…sensitive kids. So that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say that…

…that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say that advisedly. And the…

…sensitive kids. So that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist, friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say that…

…that's scattered. Another parenting book of mine is the work of a brilliant psychologist, friend of mine, Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Neufeld, who is the world's leading developmental psychologist as far as I'm personally concerned. And I say that advisedly. And the…

…know if you've read any of them, but the one on parenting, Hold On To Your Kids, the brilliant psychologist called Gordon Neufeld about the attachment being the basis of healthy development. Other people are saying it. So there's a much more awareness of…

…a coping mechanism that later on creates problems in learning. What are the reasons for anxiety? Anxiety. Anxiety, as my friend Gordon Neufeld, co-writer in my book, Hold On To Your Kids, says, anxiety is an attachment alarm. so that attachment is a need…