…New York Times bestseller, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and and Healing in a Toxic Culture, which he wrote with his son Daniel Maté. And as if one Maté weren't enough, Daniel is going to be joining us as well. But first, I'll be speaking with…

…Illness, and and Healing in a Toxic Culture, which he wrote with his son Daniel Maté. And as if one Maté weren't enough, Daniel is going to be joining us as well. But first, I'll be speaking with Palestinian human rights activist Issa Amro about Israel's…

…Show. Again, that's patreon.com slash the Katie Helper Show. So you can see the full interview that I do with Gabor and Daniel. Also, please make sure to join the discussion after the stream. I'll be doing a call-in right after the stream. The link…

…Yes. Yes. OK, great. See how excited we are to hear your voice. Well, thank you. OK, so this is Gabor Mate and this is Daniel Mate. And let me just read really let me just give a really short bio. But Gabor Mate, after 20 years of family practice…

…The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. And he's joined also by his son, Daniel Mate, a Vancouver-born, Brooklyn-based composer, lyricist, playwright, and co-author of this book. And Daniel's won several prestigious awards for…

…Grant Award, He's the co-host with Carice von Houten of Game of Thrones fame of the new podcast Let's Get Lyrical with Carice and Daniel. So all right, Daniel and Gabor, thank you so much for joining. Thank you for having us. Of course. And I guess I'm…

…co-host with Carice von Houten of Game of Thrones fame of the new podcast Let's Get Lyrical with Carice and Daniel. So all right, Daniel and Gabor, thank you so much for joining. Thank you for having us. Of course. And I guess I'm going to start with…

…that if you can affect that process, you can have an impact on the illness. Well, hypothetically. Well, this has been great, Daniel. You're going to join the call-in, right? Yeah, I'll see you there. Okay, great. So Gabor, Daniel, thank you so much for…

…Well, this has been great, Daniel. You're going to join the call-in, right? Yeah, I'll see you there. Okay, great. So Gabor, Daniel, thank you so much for joining. Make sure you get this book. It's really great. Daniel does the audio, and it's really…

…see you there. Okay, great. So Gabor, Daniel, thank you so much for joining. Make sure you get this book. It's really great. Daniel does the audio, and it's really a great audio book. It's a little confusing because Daniel's reading it, and you hear him…

…reading it, and you hear him be like, when I was born in Nazi-occupied Hungary, and it's like, wait, you were? Then you realize it's Daniel speaking as Gabor. or when i was or when i was up daniel's life when he was three but um that's not quite i'm…

…chat saying, I hear this guy is super sketchy. Right on the street. He would know because he's related to them. Yeah. Hi, Daniel. Daniel's actually mentioned in the second part of the interview that I did with his father. Daniel is one of the writers of…

…related to them. Yeah. Hi, Daniel. Daniel's actually mentioned in the second part of the interview that I did with his father. Daniel is one of the writers of the forthcoming book, The Myth of Normal, which I'm really excited about reading. Very smart…

…abuse issues. Um, Is issues problematic? People who deal with addiction. I don't want to speak for him. Although Daniel probably can answer us. He's pro decriminalization. He's pro decriminalization is what Daniel says. Two different things. We'll have…

…don't want to speak for him. Although Daniel probably can answer us. He's pro decriminalization. He's pro decriminalization is what Daniel says. Two different things. We'll have to do another show on this. And Daniel also says people with addictions. People…

…He's pro decriminalization is what Daniel says. Two different things. We'll have to do another show on this. And Daniel also says people with addictions. People with addictions, addicted people, yeah. Which I personally would like us to start…

…the author of several groundbreaking books on healing personal and societal pain and His latest, written with the help of his son Daniel, is The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. So what are the things making people feel…

…us. If we are going to dispel this horrible plague of loneliness, it comes through collectivity. Gabor Mate is the author with Daniel Mate of The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, out now. V's book, Reckoning, is also just…

…the world's most moral podcast. That's right. My name is Matt Lieb. I will be your most moral co-host for this podcast. And I'm Daniel Maté, the other one. Yes, the other moral man. So excited for all of you to join us on this very special episode of…

…picked some records off the shelf. And some of these actually used to belong to my family. So here we have Daniel Barenboim, the Argentinian israeli um but non-zionist or at least strongly pro-palestine uh conductor and piano player playing uh the beethoven…

…popular podcast uh and we thank you for coming on There's going to be a lot to talk about today. I'm going to let Daniel, obviously, lead a lot of the conversation because, as I don't know if you're aware, but you guys have some relation together. You…

…yeah well then you could agree to conditions Well, let's agree to disagree. I wanted to ask. So I recently became aware. Daniel, let me know that you have listened to this podcast before? A whole number of times. So that was... Usually before there…

…extent. There's an American psychologist, Ken Hardy, a black psychologist, who talks about the assaulted sense of self. And in the book, Daniel and I co-wrote The Myth of Normal, we quote Dr. Hardy, and the assaulted sense of self is when the abused…

…that not to turn people away because it's a page turner. It's brilliantly written. I don't know if that's the result of your son, Daniel, who work with you or you. But so I don't want people to be frightened of the pages. But I do feel this obligation…

…the illness. So it's not a thing. It's a process. That was a new insight for me. I didn't understand that before. Daniel, what was your role in writing this book? Because you guys didn't exactly co-write it, right? What was the relationship? Well,…

…of an Economic Hitman. Gabor Matei, the author of The Myth of Normal. Also, by the way, your son helped co-author the book. Daniel Matei was a friend of mine. I had the pleasure of meeting. So congratulations on that. And, you know, when I worked with…

…better time than we did. But thank you. He reads it on Audible. We had our moments, believe me. But anyway. Yeah. Oh, yes. Daniel reads it on Audible, and it sounds fantastic. Gabor Matej, thank you so much for making time, and good luck. Hope we can…

…nice to meet you in person. You have a lot of admirers in our family, and I'm one of them. And so is my son, Daniel, with whom I wrote this book you just mentioned. Absolutely, yeah. So I'm an admirer of the people in your family who work on a…

…Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture as kind of the culmination of that part of your work. It's by you and Daniel Mate. And I really hope people who found this conversation interesting, and I know I'm among them, will pick up this book…

…clinician, but also the author of several groundbreaking books on healing, personal and collective pain. His latest, written with his son Daniel, is The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. What are the things making people feel…

…seen as a point of waking up for a lot of people. And may that waking up continue. Indeed, Gabor Mate is the author with Daniel Mate of The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture out now. V's book Reckoning is also just now in…

…much. Thank you. Absolutely. The myth of normal trauma, illness and healing in a toxic culture written by you and your son, Daniel. Again, I said it at the beginning, but I want to reemphasize it's just so beautifully written. Occasionally you come across…

…Thank you. Absolutely. The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Written by you and your son, Daniel. Again, I said it at the beginning, but I want to reemphasize, it's just so beautifully written. Occasionally, you come across…

…Mate, in his new book, The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, which he wrote with his son Daniel, argues that what is defined as normal in a consumer society is at war with basic human needs. The engine of capitalism defined…

…also the author of several groundbreaking books on healing personal and societal pain, His latest, written with the help of his son Daniel, is The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. So what are the things making people feel…

…books, including his latest, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Written with his son, Daniel Mate. And V, formerly known as Eve Ensler, survived childhood sexual violence to become a playwright, activist, and founder of…

…join us. If we are going to dispel this horrible plague of loneliness, it comes through collectivity. Gabor Mate is the author with Daniel Mate of The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture out now. V's book Reckoning is also just…

…themselves. Your latest book is The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. I wrote that with my son, Daniel, yes. What should we draw from this in the current moment? Well, what I was pointing out in that book is the…

…happiness if your freedom involves disconnecting yourself from your entire family? Well, it's a really good question. My eldest son and I, Daniel, with whom I wrote our book, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture, are writing a…

…special guests joining us today, physician and Holocaust survivor, Dr. Gabor Mate, and musical theater composer, lyricist, and Dr. Gabor Mate's son, Daniel Mate. Thank you both so much for joining us here on the stream today. I would like to first ask you,…

…all that is troubling and threatening humanity. So in supporting Palestinian rights, one is supporting human rights for everybody around the world. Daniel, what is your take? Why is it important for you to speak up? I'm not sure I can do better or even…

…not solved, is not solved, is not healed by traumatizing another people. In fact, it makes it worse. In fact, it makes it worse. Daniel, would you say you, I don't know, inherited some of that trauma? And would you say that at least in part of your…

…you guys. This is what Yipeng shared with us. Take a look. A question that I have for both Dr. Mattei and Daniel. is the conflation of anti-Zionism with anti-Semitism and the weaponization of anti-Semitism in the context of the ongoing genocide in Gaza.…

…with that of being uncomfortable confronting one's privilege of bearing witness to an ongoing genocide and apartheid conditions in Palestine. Daniel, can I get you to share your thoughts on that? Yes, certainly. Well, first of all, the conflation of…

…I don't want to give away spoilers, but tell us a little bit about that before we wrap up. Sure. So my son, my eldest son, Daniel and I, whom I passed on my trauma when he was a small child, he helped me write The Myth of Normal. And the Myth of…

…can kick me out of the stream and you guys are going to watch this interview. And yes, this is Aaron Mate and Daniel Mate's father, Gabor Mate. And obviously people know Aaron and I co-host Useful Idiots. And Daniel Mate actually covered for me for…

…yes, this is Aaron Mate and Daniel Mate's father, Gabor Mate. And obviously people know Aaron and I co-host Useful Idiots. And Daniel Mate actually covered for me for Monday Morning two Mondays ago. And Daniel Mate also and I collaborated on this great…

…people know Aaron and I co-host Useful Idiots. And Daniel Mate actually covered for me for Monday Morning two Mondays ago. And Daniel Mate also and I collaborated on this great music video cover of Nothing's Gonna Stop Us Now about Netanyahu and Joe…

…son Aaron and his program, The Gray Zone, or Pushback, or his Substack. Always researching the truth and presenting it. My son Daniel, your older brother, your oldest brother, I should say, Hannah. He's had a couple of IG lives. Daniel B. Mathey. I can…

…and presenting it. My son Daniel, your older brother, your oldest brother, I should say, Hannah. He's had a couple of IG lives. Daniel B. Mathey. I can only take my hat off because he speaks about the situation. We trust this passion and such fairness…

…We trust this passion and such fairness and such compassion and such clarity. So a lot of people have really appreciated Daniel speaking on this issue. I believe Chris Hedges, again, his interview with Norman Finkelstein. um hannah i also think you want…

Hello everyone, welcome back to another show. Today I have Daniel Maté with me. Daniel is the co-author of The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture that he wrote with his father, Gabor Maté. Coming from a family of Jewish…

Hello everyone, welcome back to another show. Today I have Daniel Maté with me. Daniel is the co-author of The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture that he wrote with his father, Gabor Maté. Coming from a family of Jewish…

…Healing in a Toxic Culture that he wrote with his father, Gabor Maté. Coming from a family of Jewish Holocaust survivors, Daniel is a vocal critic of Zionism, Israeli policies and its genocide in Gaza. Daniel Mate is an award-winning musical theater…

…family of Jewish Holocaust survivors, Daniel is a vocal critic of Zionism, Israeli policies and its genocide in Gaza. Daniel Mate is an award-winning musical theater songwriter, playwright, educator, and mental chiropractor. mate received the edward kleban prize…

…you do so many things, you can kind of get lost sometimes and lose track, but hey, we all refresh our memories sometimes. Daniel, I saw in one of your recent videos, you compared Zionism to addiction, which is something very strong. And you said that…

…And as a brief introduction, Dr. Matte is an expert in trauma addiction and the connection between stress and illness. And Daniel Matte is an award-winning theater songwriter and co-author with Gabor of the book, The Meat of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and…

…And that's the dilemma is how do we cross, how do we bridge that gap of perspective? That's the challenge. I'll stop there. Daniel. Hello. Hi, everyone. So I might be less familiar to many of you than the previous speaker. I'm Gabor's son, Daniel. And…

…stop there. Daniel. Hello. Hi, everyone. So I might be less familiar to many of you than the previous speaker. I'm Gabor's son, Daniel. And I'm here at this one. I wasn't at the previous ones. So I've been wondering, what am I doing here? thematic a…

…of taking care of the internal space and to understand that even if people are coming with the kind of hostility that Daniel mentioned, I mean, we've had so much stuff thrown at us, uh, about being self-hating Jews and terrorist supporters and, you know,…

…just mentioned taking care of the internal space. So when Gabor first spoke, he mentioned the heaviness and the grief. And when Daniel spoke, he mentioned the possibility of the expansion of a new perspective. So let's see how we can put those together…

…of healing. Yeah. Well, my most recent book, The Myth of Normal, that was mentioned in the introduction, I wrote that with my son, Daniel. In fact, I could not have written it without him. But this is a boy who is a genius. He's 47 years old now.…

…own trauma and as we became more aware of what our children needed from us as adults. It's been a lot of work. So Daniel and I are now writing another book together that was also mentioned. It's a workshop that we do together. It's called Hello Again,…

…And it's a workshop that we've been giving for six years and If you watch on YouTube, you can go on YouTube and Google Daniel and Gabor Mate and the first talk that we gave in 2016, seen by about 400,000 people, you can still see us seething at…

…of healing. Yeah. Well, my most recent book, The Myth of Normal, that was mentioned in the introduction, I wrote that with my son, Daniel. In fact, I could not have written it without him. And was that your idea or his idea or how did that emerge? It…

…own trauma and as we became more aware of what our children needed from us as adults. It's been a lot of work. So Daniel and I are now writing another book together that was also mentioned. It's a workshop that we do together. It's called Hello Again,…

…Children. And it's a workshop that we've been giving for six years. If you watch on YouTube, you can go on YouTube and Google Daniel and Gabor Mate, and the first talk that we gave in 2016, seen by about 400,000 people, you can still see us seething…

…about it and they can just ask for help and It doesn't entrench kind of crying manipulative behavior. How it works, Dr. Daniel Segal, who's a psychiatrist at UCLA and a very prolific author and mind researcher, he says in his book, The Developing Mind,…

…throats and sometimes not talking to each other at all. Yeah. So I get that. One of my sons and I, his name is Daniel, him and I are actually going to write a book together called Hello Again. A Fresh Start for Adult Children and Their Parents. And…

…are not adults yet, but you just might get something out of it. Okay? Yeah. What's it called? Sorry. Hello again. Just Google Daniel and Gabor Mate. That's all. On YouTube. You'll find it. It's been seen by about 300,000 people. Now, Come back to your…

…they can be softened, unlearned, reshaped. The question becomes, how do we begin to loosen the grip of the past on the present? Daniel was the kind of man people described as reliable. He was up early every morning, coffee in hand, laptop open before the…

…had it all figured out. But if you watched him closely, you'd notice something else. At night, when the house was quiet, Daniel rarely sat in stillness. He scrolled through his phone until his eyes burned. He poured himself another drink, not to celebrate,…

…part. Silence pressed on him like a weight he couldn't name. What no one saw was the ache underneath. As a boy, Daniel had grown up in a house where emotions were dangerous territory. His father, strict and easily irritated, had little patience for tears…

…patience for tears or fears. His mother, though loving in her way, tiptoed around conflict and encouraged him to be strong. So Daniel learned early that feelings had no safe landing place. The safest thing was to bury them. to keep moving, to never let…

…The question isn't why the addiction. That question only points to the behavior. The deeper question is why the pain? What was Daniel carrying that felt too heavy to face without numbing? Seen in that light, his patterns weren't signs of failure, but of…

…of broken up I was that my friends were treating me in such a shitty way. My dad kind of sighed and he said, well, Daniel, I know it's difficult for you. You've always had a hard time reading social cues. And I think that goes back to when you were…

…you were bringing? Anything else you wanna add to that? No, just it's great insight. I mean, I'd like to ask you, Daniel, how you cultivated your mindfulness around the propensity to fall into your roles, maybe it'll come up later. But, you know, because…

…even some faith. Okay, so let's go back to his response. So I get that. One of my sons and I, his name is Daniel, him and I are actually going to write a book together called Hello Again, a fresh start for adult children and their parents. And…

…are not adults yet, but you just might get something out of it. Okay? Yeah. What's it called? Sorry. Hello Again. Just Google Daniel and Gabor Mate, that's all, on YouTube. You'll find it. It's been seen by about 300,000 people. Now, go back to your…

…this Aaron's dad? Uh, this is Gabor Mate is yes, is, is, uh, the father of, of, of Aaron and, uh, his other, yeah, Daniel, Aaron and Daniel's dad. Daniel is a co-host of the bad Hasbro podcast alongside Matt Lieb and Aaron is a journalist, uh, I need…

…is Gabor Mate is yes, is, is, uh, the father of, of, of Aaron and, uh, his other, yeah, Daniel, Aaron and Daniel's dad. Daniel is a co-host of the bad Hasbro podcast alongside Matt Lieb and Aaron is a journalist, uh, I need your thoughts on Max…

…to be sort of, now these are my words, but the age mixing is considered to be sort of one of the real, as Daniel Greenberg says, secret weapons or great strengths. And we actually want the children to have a space to get out from underneath the…

…more and was wise and had all these fantastic attachment parenting skills. So the child's constantly met. And that's what Daniel Greenberg's talking about in that article when he says, yeah, developing social skills. that work when you're under your parents'…

…for the film The Wisdom of Trauma, featuring our guest, Dr. Gabor Mate. He's just written a new book with his son Daniel titled The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Democracy Now!' 's Nermeen Shaikh and I recently spoke…

…that we need to face together. Dr. Gabor Maté, the acclaimed Canadian physician and author, who wrote the new book with his son Daniel, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. And that does it for our show. To see all our…

…the many ways to awaken the best in the human spirit. I'm Callie Alpert. Dropping in today, Dr. Gabor and Daniel Maté. Gabor is a retired physician, best-selling author, and internationally renowned speaker, highly sought after for his expertise on addiction,…

…distinction. His latest book, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, is co-authored with his son, Daniel, as is their next book, Hello Again, a fresh start for parents and their adult children. Daniel is an award-winning…

…with his son, Daniel, as is their next book, Hello Again, a fresh start for parents and their adult children. Daniel is an award-winning songwriter, playwright, and educator. He received the Edward Kleban Prize for Most Promising Lyricist in American Musical…

…Musical Theater and the ASCAP Foundation's Cole Porter Award for Excellence in Music and Lyrics. Outside of music and theater, Daniel runs the world's only mental chiropractic service called Take a Walk with Daniel. His passion is helping people crystallize…

…Lyrics. Outside of music and theater, Daniel runs the world's only mental chiropractic service called Take a Walk with Daniel. His passion is helping people crystallize their own innate freedom, clarity, creativity, and true intelligence by discovering what…

…kids are grown-ups themselves? Well, funny you should ask, because my next book is going to be, which I'm writing with my son Daniel, is going to be Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Parents and Adult Children. And there are ways of working on that…

…to research the situation sent a total justification for the most recent massacre. Let me just find it. This is my son, Daniel, who you know. This friend of mine who will remain unnamed, send me an email with his long justification for the Gaza…

…email with his long justification for the Gaza massacre. And he copied my sons on it. And you know, both my sons, Aaron, the John and Daniel, and he sent it to my, and he said he copied it to me and to my two sons. So he said that Daniel seems to…

…John and Daniel, and he sent it to my, and he said he copied it to me and to my two sons. So he said that Daniel seems to be more balanced and reasonable than I am on this issue. No, sorry. I hope you, I hope your feelings weren't hurt. So Daniel…

…to be more balanced and reasonable than I am on this issue. No, sorry. I hope you, I hope your feelings weren't hurt. So Daniel writes this back and I just, it was so satisfying to read. He says, I'm buying out of this threat, this thread. I'm not…

…important to, which is my own children and myself and my spouse. So that's what I mean. Well, now you're writing a book with Daniel, your adult son, and it's called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children. So I want to know what…

…I want to know what it's like working on this book together and what are you both learning about repair and forgiveness? So Daniel helped me write The Myth of Normal, and without his assistance, that book would not have got written. It was just too big…

…they're very big on, you know, yelling and, and keeping your boundaries and teaching you those things. And I came home, I told Daniel, I'm like, there is no better therapy than beating the hell out of some big padded guy and just screaming at him. Like,…

…why? Because their brains didn't develop the right way in the first place. If you look at the dopamine circuitry that I know, Daniel, you work with a lot, especially in ADHD work, but in other work as well. The dopamine is essential for motivation, for…

…And am I getting what you're describing? And I'm like, no. I got kicked off the breast for four months. Well, I'll tell you, Daniel. I've been trying to find it ever since. When you were talking about your first wife and how she was a strong daughter.…

…going to miss the birth of my grandchild? So that's the big thing coming up. In terms of my work, My eldest son and I, Daniel, who helped me write The Myth of Normal, we were working on a book called Hello Again, a fresh start for parents and adult…

…so many things we could be talking about. Well, it's a pleasure to speak with you both. Thank you. Hi, I'm Dr. Daniel Amen. I've experienced firsthand the powerful impact that proper supplementation can have on your brain, your body, and your mind. That's…

…the world a lot speaking and teaching, doing seminars, webinars. I'm teaching my Compassionate Inquiry course. And as you know, my son Daniel and I just completed our new book and published it two months ago. So I've been busy with speaking, teaching, and…

…Mate, in his book, The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, which he wrote with his son Daniel, argues that our culture's standards of normalcy are in fact destructive to the physical and psychological health of human beings. In…

…answer that in the personal and the professional realm. Um, in a professional realm, I'm working on my new book with my son, Daniel. It's going to be called hello again, a fresh start for parents and adult children. It's based on a workshop that we gave…

…basis of upholding a boundary a good enough reason? Sometimes it's necessary for your own integrity, depending on the relationship. My son, Daniel, who helped me write The Myth of Normal, Daniel and I were working on a book together now, it's called Hello…

…it's necessary for your own integrity, depending on the relationship. My son, Daniel, who helped me write The Myth of Normal, Daniel and I were working on a book together now, it's called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Adults and Parents' Children.…

…a book together now, it's called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Adults and Parents' Children. And there's been times in my relationship with Daniel, oh, I can say that, could we say it in the book? that he kind of cut off contact because the way I was…

…that person. But I feel that Tasmanian devil of dad inside of me. Well, first of all, I was one of those dads. My son Daniel, with whom I wrote The Myth of Normal, he actually writes in the book that growing up with me, when that family was like,…

…of Hidden Stress, and Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, and most recently with his son Daniel, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Thank you so much for doing this. Thank you, Brian. Nice…

So it is my great pleasure and honor to bring to the stage Daniel and Gabor Maté. Thank you for that. Thank you. Hi everybody in here and out there. Um, this is neat. This is our first live streamed event. Just to give you a little sense of how…

…I was nine years old that someday, Imagine we're sitting around the dinner table having one of our maté dinners and you told me, Daniel, one day there's going to be bleachers around the table and people will be able to look in and see. I would have…

…to do the Joe Rogan podcast. He'd been doing four interviews a day for weeks. And he just wrote me back. He's like, Daniel, this is garbage. I'm not dealing with this. I'm not dealing with your drama right now. And I was incensed. I was channeling…

…And I couldn't let go of it until my brother got home that night. And we went for a walk together and he said, Daniel, is it just possible that you're carrying some body memory here of some kind of violation of your privacy? And that that's not…

…My entire family, mom, brother, sister, who are not given to letting him off the hook when he's being a jerk, said to me, Daniel, nope, this time it was all you. You were the antagonist. That's what it looked like. And again, I sat with that one for…

…book of the night. Dr. Gabor's The Myth of the Normal, which was released in Arabic, written by Dr. Gabor Maté and his son, Daniel Maté. And it's signed and autographed. I just got it done. If you want pictures and proof, we have that as well. Start…

…bit higher speed, because I'm not one of these people that can do one and a half. It's like 1.1 or 1.2 sped up. And Daniel, who I've met, your son, reads the book. Yeah, my son, who helped me write the book, also narrates the audio version. And it's…

…right. Yes, yes. I've met her. Absolutely. Reach out to her. I will. I definitely will. I have one more question by Daniel because I think these answers are so important because these are what's on their minds. Great. He asks, how does childhood trauma…

…I know they did the best they could. And the damage is done, though, there's some damage here or some injury. So my son Daniel helped me write my new book, the myth of normal. But the next big next book we're writing is called Hello, again, a fresh…

…children and their parents. And that's actually a workshop that we give. And if anybody has access to YouTube, you could Google Daniel and Gabor Mate, hello again. And in 2016, we gave a public talk about this. Even on stage, we're still fighting with…

…this is our life and we have to take responsibility. Yeah. So here's the deal. My son and I, my eldest son and I, Daniel, are writing a book together now called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Parents and Adult Children. And It's only a fact that in…

…what age were they afraid of you, did you feel? In their pre-teens. They also felt loved and supported, but as my eldest son Daniel writes in our book, The Myth of Normal, he never knew when the floor became not the floor. In other words, when the…

…evolution and human needs. So there's a myth. And we thought in the beginning, I will bring on my brilliant co-writer and son, Daniel, who'll read a short segment from the book. the purpose of which is to indicate just how normalized trauma has become in…

…short segment from the book. the purpose of which is to indicate just how normalized trauma has become in our society. So, Daniel, if you're within a hearing shot, please come up. This is my co-writer, Daniel. Hi, folks. This is from Chapter 24. called,…

…normalized trauma has become in our society. So, Daniel, if you're within a hearing shot, please come up. This is my co-writer, Daniel. Hi, folks. This is from Chapter 24. called, I think the Americans, we're Canadians here, but I feel like this crowd of…

…a great job. So the best gift we can give to our kids is not to apologize and mea culpa and all that. My son Daniel, with whom I wrote this book and without who's brilliant help I couldn't have written it we've been through our stuff in fact our…

…some of those one or two adaptions that you were bringing in impacted your relationship with your son? Sure. Well, actually, my son Daniel, with whom I wrote this book, the next book we're going to write together, co-write it, is going to be called Hello…

…lot of growing up to work through those traumas. And our children grew up in a war zone, you might say. And my son Daniel talks in his book about how the floor was not the floor. Like he never knew when things would just collapse, emotionally speaking.…

…throats and sometimes not talking to each other at all. Yeah. So I get that. One of my sons and I, his name is Daniel. him and I actually going to write a book together called hello again, a fresh start for adult children and their parents. And, uh,…

…are not adults yet, but you just might get something out of it. Okay. Yeah. What's it called? Sorry. Hello again. Just Google Daniel and Gabor Mate. That's all on YouTube. You'll find it. It's been seen by about 300,000 people. Now, come back to your…

…the audio version yeah and um him and I do writing a new book together, where actually, it's not going to be Gabor with Daniel is going to be Daniel and Gabor. And it'll be called Hello, again, a fresh start for adult children and their parents, which…

…um him and I do writing a new book together, where actually, it's not going to be Gabor with Daniel is going to be Daniel and Gabor. And it'll be called Hello, again, a fresh start for adult children and their parents, which is a workshop that we've…

…adult children and their parents, which is a workshop that we've done. Believe me, we've had our stuff to go to my son, Daniel. Yeah. And based on that, what we've learned, we do this workshop. And based on that workshop, you're writing this next book.…

…of healing. Yeah. Well, my most recent book, The Myth of Normal, that was mentioned in the introduction, I wrote that with my son, Daniel. In fact, I could not have written it without him. And was that your idea or his idea or how did that emerge? It…

…own trauma and as we became more aware of what our children needed from us as adults. It's been a lot of work. So Daniel and I are now writing another book together that was also mentioned. It's a workshop that we do together. It's called Hello Again,…

…Children. And it's a workshop that we've been giving for six years. If you watch on YouTube, you can go on YouTube and Google Daniel and Gabor Mate, and the first talk that we gave in 2016, seen by about 400,000 people, you can still see us seething…

…end, I'm just so happy with what I've been able to set down on paper. But by the way, with the brilliant help of my son, Daniel, I couldn't have done this on my own. And if I can pitch forward a bit, the next book Daniel and I are writing is…

…help of my son, Daniel, I couldn't have done this on my own. And if I can pitch forward a bit, the next book Daniel and I are writing is called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Adult Children and Their Parents. Maybe in a few years when that's…

…which means that our relationship was very conflicted. My trauma would bump against hers and, of course, there'd be rancor. Our son, Daniel, with whom I our brilliant eldest son, Daniel, with whom I wrote this book, he talks in the book about having this…

…My trauma would bump against hers and, of course, there'd be rancor. Our son, Daniel, with whom I our brilliant eldest son, Daniel, with whom I wrote this book, he talks in the book about having this nightmare as a child of the floor disappearing…

…to have, or maybe it was terrible, I don't know. What was the collaboration like? Well, it had its terrible moments. My son Daniel and I, he's my eldest child, we had a kind of fraught relationship. But you know what? This book has been a beautiful…

…books. And actually in our last conversation, the third conversation we had together on this podcast, you shared a story that when Daniel, one of your children was young, you mentioned and you shared openly how you slapped him across the face for something…

…and why I did it. And I didn't do it deliberately. It just came upon me. And it had consequences. And my son Daniel and I just wrote this book together, The Myth of Normal, that you mentioned. And we're writing another book together called Hello Again,…

…books. And actually in our last conversation, the third conversation we had together on this podcast, you shared a story that when Daniel, one of your children was young, you mentioned and you shared openly how you slapped him across the face for something…

…and why I did it. And I didn't do it deliberately. It just came upon me. And it had consequences. And my son Daniel and I just wrote this book together, The Myth of Normal, that you've mentioned. And we're writing another book together called Hello…

…Most of them scientific papers. 25,000. Yeah. It took me a long time. You and your son. Let's give your son a shout out. Daniel? Yeah. My brilliant son, Daniel, without whom I could not have written this book. And when it's time to read from the book,…

…25,000. Yeah. It took me a long time. You and your son. Let's give your son a shout out. Daniel? Yeah. My brilliant son, Daniel, without whom I could not have written this book. And when it's time to read from the book, Daniel steps up and does a…

…Yeah. My brilliant son, Daniel, without whom I could not have written this book. And when it's time to read from the book, Daniel steps up and does a wonderful job. Yeah, Daniel did the audio, which is a good thing. I couldn't have. But I think,…

…I could not have written this book. And when it's time to read from the book, Daniel steps up and does a wonderful job. Yeah, Daniel did the audio, which is a good thing. I couldn't have. But I think, oh, sorry. No, I just want to know what prompted…

…repair relationships with our children after years of disconnection? Funny you should ask, because I wrote The Myth of Normal with my son Daniel, who is 50 years old this month as we speak. Daniel and I are now working on a new book. It's called Hello…

…you should ask, because I wrote The Myth of Normal with my son Daniel, who is 50 years old this month as we speak. Daniel and I are now working on a new book. It's called Hello Again, a fresh start for parents and adult children. And believe me,…

…as, you know, in all too many cases, abuse and violence and, you know, addictive patterns and just... Well, you know, my son Daniel used to have this recurrent nightmare in his childhood that the floor just fell away. There was no floor. He says he…

…brothers were there with their wives, their families, my parents, my wife and I, and our eldest son, three years old. And Daniel, my co-writer on this book, to be, announces, I'm not singing happy birthday. And I said, if you're not singing, you're not…

…says, I'm going to exert my own personality. I'm not going to go along with the crowd, you know. I might have said, hey, Daniel, sweetheart, don't sing, just have the cake and enjoy it. What was being triggered in me is the sense I developed as a…

…and Healing in the Toxic Culture, is a New York Times and international bestseller. His next book, co-written with his son, Daniel, will be Hello Again, a fresh start for parents and their adult children based on their popular workshops. Please visit…

…of those, one or two adaptions that you were bringing in impacted your relationship with your son? Sure. Well, actually, My son Daniel, with whom I wrote this book, the next book we're going to write together, co-write it, is going to be called Hello…

…lot of growing up to work through those traumas. And our children grew up in a war zone, you might say. And my son Daniel talks in his book about how the floor was not the floor. Like he never knew when things would just collapse, emotionally speaking.…

…creative play. So ask yourself if you're doing these things. Now, this book, The Myth of Normal, I wrote it with my eldest son, Daniel, who is now about to be 47. He talks in the book about Did he have those things? Did he have those things with…

…book. Literally, I've made every mistake in every book I've written. About what not to do. About what not to do, yeah. So Daniel talks about he used to have this recurring nightmare. As a child. With the floor just disappearing. The floor not being the…

…mean physical violence. Yeah. I mean, just outbursts of rage, you know? Anger, yeah. You know? I can relate to that. And my son, Daniel, who helped me write The Myth of Normal, he says in the book that... the floor was never the floor he never knew…

Ladies and gentlemen, good morning. Daniel Ratuszniak, director of Nowe Horyzonty Cinema. I am very happy that you have decided to take part in today's lecture. There is no better place than Nowe Horyzonty Cinema for this meeting. Nowe Horyzonty Cinema is…

…an audio version of this as well? There's an audio version, which I've got to mention. My co-writer is my brilliant son, Daniel. And he also narrates the audio version because he's a very talented actor and voice person, an award-winning narrator of books.…

…he also narrates the audio version because he's a very talented actor and voice person, an award-winning narrator of books. So Daniel did the audio version, which will be available the same date as the book is. Beautiful. Shout-out to Daniel. All right.…

…talented actor and voice person, an award-winning narrator of books. So Daniel did the audio version, which will be available the same date as the book is. Beautiful. Shout-out to Daniel. All right. Thank you. Appreciate you. Take care. Bye, everybody. Bye.

…books. And actually in our last conversation, the third conversation we had together on this podcast, you shared a story that when Daniel, one of your children was young, you mentioned and you shared openly how you slapped him across the face for something…

…I did it. And I didn't do it deliberately. It just came upon me, you know? And it had consequences. And my son Daniel and I just wrote this book together, The Myth of Normal, that you've mentioned. And we're writing another book together called Hello…

…my brothers were there with their wives, their families, my parents, my wife and I and our eldest son, three years old. And Daniel, my core writer on this book, to be, announces, I'm not singing happy birthday. And I said, if you're not singing, you're…

…says, I'm going to assert my own personality. I'm not going to go along with the crowd, you know. I might have said, hey Daniel, sweetheart, don't sing, just have the cake and enjoy it. What was being triggered in me is the sense I developed as a…

…deny them and just say, oh, I just fell, I hurt myself. And when she married the brilliant Argentinian-Israeli pianist and conductor Daniel Barenboim, she molded herself to suit his expectations so much so that she even began to speak with an accent that…