…they're families, tribes, or what have you. And they lose that as Confucius kept warming and as Aristotle warned, you know, Alexander and others, they lose that. They lose their reason for being, but they'll also have instability, chaos be overthrown. And…

…I do in compassion inquiries is I pay attention to people's language, okay? Now, if I was working with Melissa or David or Alexander or anybody else, would you say to them, are you indulging yourself? No. But notice you said it to yourself. Yes. Which…

…They were not part of the major population. Stalin was a Georgian, not a Russian. Napoleon was a Corsican, not a Frenchman. Alexander was a Macedonian, not a Greek. And Hitler was an Austrian, not a German. So a real sense of insecurity and inferiority.…

…connected, one unit, endorphins are released in the infant's brain. And then the circuitry of endorphins develops. And Alexander Tsiaras yesterday mentioned dopamine, another chemical messenger in the brain, a neurotransmitter. Dopamine is also released, and the…

…uh, that the two are not separate. So that, that, that the addiction and the, I have a very brilliant friend, uh, Bruce Alexander has written the second best book on addiction, uh, which is called, uh, uh, what's it called now? Oh God. Good. I'm glad…

…called, uh, uh, what's it called now? Oh God. Good. I'm glad you've forgotten that. We'll look it up. What is it? Bruce Alexander book on addiction. It's, it's, it's, it's, but it's about this location. Um, And it's, he's saying that addiction is a sign…

…I do in Compassion Inquiry is I pay attention to people's language, okay? Now, if I was working with Melissa or David or Alexander or anybody else, would you say to them, are you indulging yourself? No. But notice you said it to yourself. Yes. Which…

…on the tush. And our nanny would occasionally smack us on the tush with a spatula. Okay. Do you have kids? Yes. One boy, Alexander, who's eight. Okay. How old were you when you were, as you say, hit on the tush? And you say that rather dismissively,…

…something to that effect to them in that moment. Had you said it, you would remember it. True. Okay. Now, if your son, if Alexander felt pain and fear and didn't speak to you about it, how would you explain that? That he must not trust me enough to…

…about how it works. But let's say you come to me at age five. Or let's say your son comes to me at age five. Put Alexander in that situation. He's being bullied and he's not talking to you about it, but he's talking to me. If I said to him, look,…

…situation. He's being bullied and he's not talking to you about it, but he's talking to me. If I said to him, look, Alexander, okay, you're being bullied and you're afraid and you don't trust your father to tell him about it. But hey, you're not…

…in the VR world what would happen if you change the environment where this came from is you introduced me to Dr. Bruce Alexander who wrote the globalization of addiction he's the one that originally did the the Rat Park studies. And one of the things…

…sense of belonging. What in my book I call dislocation, not my word. I borrowed it from a friend of mine, Bruce Alexander, a psychologist, who himself borrowed it from an economist called Polanyi. Dislocation is when you don't have a sense that you…

…And chronic pain is often where people hold trauma. So yes, body-based therapies like Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing, Feldenkrais, Alexander Technique. Oh, I'm sure there are many others. Sensory motor and neural processing, I forget the exact name. A…

…I do in compassion inquiries is I pay attention to people's language, okay? Now, if I was working with Melissa or David or Alexander or anybody else, would you say to them, are you indulging yourself? No. But notice you said it to yourself. Yes. Which…